C o n f l i c t c o a c h i n g & c o n s u l t a n c y
managers, directors, leaders
You are confronted with a difficult situation with a collaborator, in your team, department or organization.
You would like to address the conflict with wisdom, courage and insight.
You need an extra pair of eyes, and are looking for insights, anchors and tools.
You are also prepared to explore your part in the situation.
HR managers & professionals
You want to intervene in a specific conflict situation in a quick, adequate and professional way.
You want to bring clarity in the complexity of a conflict situation.
You need a sounding board to explore requests for help when managers are confronted with problematic situations and stuckness on the work floor.
You want to explore what you can contribute in your role as HR and which interventions can be helpful.
those personally involved in a conflict
You are involved in a conflict and want to explore how to deal with the situation.
You wish to stand up for what is important for you, and at the same time respect the needs and interests of others.
You would like to prepare a ‘courageous conversation’.
You wish to develop skills and strategies to engage in a productive conversation.
You want to overcome your fear to speak up.
You need support before, during or after a mediation process.
“While conflict can be a trap of the past,
conflict resolution is an act of the present and the future.”
Why conflict coaching?
At work you are always confronted with people who think and behave differently. Collaboration with the differences is often a challenge.
Organisations expect you, as a leader, HR professional or employee, to deal with conflict in a mature and constructive way. In reality this is often not so self evident.
However, most people are insecure when dealing with differences of opinion, opposition and tensions.
This provokes all sorts of reactions, such as contraction, fighting, making jokes, silence, non verbal aggression or explosions.
We never really learned how to approach conflicts from a place of calm, to be curious and to respond in a wise and constructive way. This results in a lot of frustration and human suffering on the work floor.
But the good news is: you can learn to deal with conflict!
“Beyond our ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there is a field.
I will meet you there.”
What are the benefits of coaching?
You look at your situation in which you are stuck from a healthy distance, allowing you to see the bigger picture
You discover what puts you off balance, how you react to the experience of threat, and what the costs of your patterns are
You are able to see your vision as just one perspective on the situation and can construct a omni-partial perspective on the conflict
You grow your empathy with ‘the other side’ and connect to what is really important for you
You make the shift from blaming and expecting the other to change, to taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings and behavior
You experience choice and options and can offer a response from a place of calm, courage, curiosity and wisdom
You learn how to express your needs and wishes in a constructive way and can set clearer boundaries
You can engage in courageous conversations and stand up for what is important for you, in respect for the other
You bring movement to rigid habits, patterns in which you are stuck and find new approaches for dealing with conflict
“It is far better to look inward rather than outward for the problem and the solution.”
An integral and holistic approach
Conflict coaching is result and future oriented.
We work from an integral perspective, on different levels: organization, departments or teams, the interpersonal and the personal level.
Our vision on development is holistic. We work with different forms of intelligence: cognitive, emotional, relational, somatic and collective intelligence.
The aim is always to increase awareness, to discover new choices, to infuse oxygen into difficult situations, and bring movement in conflicts that seem stuck.
The metaphor of the labyrinth is key. We make a movement from the inside to the outside.
Our approach is contextual because during the process your reality and specific situation is always the point of reference. I challenge you to try out ‘safe to fail’ experiments.
The real work happens outside the coaching space!
“Conflict (…) presents threat of one sort or another to the individuals involved and, consequently, parties in conflict will have more difficulty excersing their ability to delay visceral and emotional responses in their conflict interactions.
Yet this is exactly what we are asking them to do in conflict resolution processes. (…)
In conflict resolution work, sometimes we need to go slow to go fast.”
Consultancy
You are welcome for a single consultancy session or for a longer process to increase your impact in difficult collaboration, conflicts and in painful situations.
For instance:
- You are confronted with a difficult situation in your organization and want a sparring partner to zoom out, and discover fresh perspectives and inspiration
- You want advise on how to intervene in a challenging situation in a team or department
- You wish to explore the potential of your professional role in a situation that seems stuck
- You want to increase conflict resolution competencies in your organization and are looking for options
- You would like to invest in an open, safe and productive climate in your team or organization and want to co-create a strategy
how does it work?
Please send me your specific question and let’s plan a first meeting to clarify your goals and how we will work together.
Max. 30 minuties, online, free of charge.
the process of Conflict coaching
Please send me the registration form.
We start with a free intake of 30 minutes (online) to explore your question and discuss some practicalities.
Coaching is a process, adapted to your situation, questions and needs.
To allow for real change, we recommend you commit to a minimum of 5 sessions.
You can spread the coaching conversations over a period of your choice: brief and intense or over a longer period of time
Do you have any questions? Please feel free to contact me!
silvia@circlesforconnection.be
+32 (0) 486 14 86 33
Practical information
- Start coaching: registration form
- Start consultancy: your question via mail or contact form
- Online intake (30 min; free of charge)
- A coaching or consultancy session is 1,5 hours
- I work online (Zoom platform), but you are also welcome in my private practice (Leuven)
Practice
Sessions are possible on Tuesdays: 10am – 12pm – 2pm – 4pm
and Wednesdays: 10am – 12pm
Fees
Independent consultants & professionals: 125,00 €/h
Organisations: based on an offer
About Silvia
My name is Silvia, I am 62 years, mother of three grown-up children.
As a clinial and organisational psychologist I am specialized in working with people in their professional context when they are confronted with professional challenges, personal issues, difficult professional relationships, old pain, disconnection and the limits of free expression.
I have 33 years of experience in the field of organizational development, team coaching, conflict, mediation, organizational trauma and personal growth.
More information about my background and professional training under ‘more about Silvia’
